Session Notes

Husbands and Wives: Toward Spiritual Awareness:

” This is typical of Jesus. First, He attracts us to Himself until we long to know Him more intimately, and then He reveals Himself to us more and more as we respond to the knowledge we already have of Him. Our Personal Circumstances We can easily become so preoccupied with our own circumstances that Jesus seems to get lost in the shuffle. The disciples walking the Emmaus Road with Christ were bogged down in their despair about His crucifixion. When Jesus came near them, all they could see were their seemingly adverse circumstances. To call them shortsighted is an understatement. They could see only the superficial – the natural elements - and were blind to the supernatural. Their interpretation of life made no room for the possibility of a Divine breakthrough into their situation.”

Choosing a Religious Home: Choosing a Religious Home:

“Take a minute to determine what you’re looking for. Choose what interests you, then print out a quick assessment of your spiritual wishes. Do you want positive spiritual, moral, and social training for your children? Resources to enrich your family? What other benefits do you want? 2. Take another minute to determine your current religious preferences. Describe what matters to you, then print out an assessment of your spiritual preferences. What’s your religious background? Your spouse’s religious background? What other spiritual factors are significant to your family? 3. Then take another minute or two to decide what options to pursue. Discover and begin exploring your local options. Learn how to get the most out of the church or other spiritual community you decide to attend.”

This has some good information on intiaiting your church relationships

Male multiple orgasm

Ok, somewhat against my better judgment and only as per multiple requests:

This is a simple article focused towards understanding the development of the male ability to experience multiple orgasm — and thus provide much higher levels of sexual satisfaction for their wives then is normally provided by men simply focused upon/uncontrollably driven towards ejaculation.

Normally it takes intensive coaching and a number of months of careful effort to develop this skill. Usually, we undertake it in connection with extensive whole couple training in sexual technique — subsequent to a clear movement towards Biblical surrender being walked out by the couple as per I Corinthians 6:19 and onwards.

Please do not send me nasty emails on this one. I am fully aware that this skill was first recorded by practitioners of Eastern Mystical arts. It, however, requires only physical musculature training and an understanding of the ejaculatory sequence to master — not disassociative meditative technique. IT IS NOT AT ALL RELATED TO THE NEW AGE MOVEMENT!!! Titus 1:15 states very clearly that:

To the pure, all things are pure; but to those who are defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure, but both their mind and their conscience are defiled. (KJV)

It should be noted that this article sacrifices a great deal of detail for the sake of brevity and should not be considered as anything close to a definitive work on the subject. Most couples attempting such without intensive coaching experience a high level of frustration and little success…

TrueU.org | Men’s Hall: One Size Doesn’t Fit All: Are You Put Off by a Feminine Faith?:

“When it comes to the issue of loving God, we should not get tense and uptight when we don’t worship the same way as others. God didn’t use a cookie cutter to create us; He has designed us with such variety that it’s only natural that we will worship Him in different ways. When I read through the Bible, I see Abraham building altars, David dancing or writing a psalm, Mary sitting adoringly at Jesus’ feet, Peter’s mother-in-law serving – yet all of these people loved God and were worshipping Him while doing different things. Can you even imagine Jesus looking down on Mary and saying, ‘Quit staring at me! If you really want to show your love, go build me an altar, just like Abraham did! Those were really cool, and I’d like more of them.’ We wouldn’t go to Zaire or Peru and expect the people there to worship God exactly the same way that a Baptist from Georgia or an Episcopalian from Boston would do, but often when we deal with young people, we expect the energetic kids and the meditative kids to fit into one mold when it comes to devotions or quiet time. I found that it just doesn’t work that way. God didn’t use a cookie cutter to create us; He has designed us with such variety that it’s only natural that we will worship Him in different ways. Some of you guys may have your hearts opened up to God when you get out of doors. God seems more real to you when there’s a mountain in the background, and you’re hiking under a big expanse of sky. Others of you really like books – even the reference kind. You’re moved by concepts, and you want to come out of your devotional time with some new understanding. Still others may be more aesthetically inclined; you’re the artistic type, and you prefer creative and original music, or even good architecture to open your heart to God’s presence.”

This is an excellent article to counter legalism. We all worship/love differently. The goal is still the same, even if our hearts are opened in various ways.

Talking to Tweens About Love, Sex and Relationships: Transition:

“Girls have a desire for connection, intimacy and safety. When we acknowledge this, we can help our teen girls meet this need in healthy ways. Most adolescents try to have their needs met among their friends. How they act out that intimacy imperative – particularly without guidance from parents – can lead to trouble. Gurian stresses that far too many parents abandon their parenting duties when their children transition to the teen years. Puberty is not miniadulthood. Many social scientists are decrying the trend of reduced parenting once a child hits middle school. Social research is actually saying that children need their parents, even if they don’t act like they do. A number of women tend to re-enter the workforce when their children become teenagers. However, in reality, the young teen years are frightening for children, and they need the stable presence of an adult.”

Husbands and Wives: The New Workplace Romance:

“‘The new infidelity is between people who unwittingly form deep, passionate connections before realizing that they’ve crossed the line from platonic friendship into romantic love. Eighty-two percent of the 210 unfaithful partners I’ve treated have had an affair with someone who was, at first, “just a friend.”‘ From 1991 to 2000, Glass discovered in her practice that 50 percent of the unfaithful women and about 62 percent of unfaithful men she treated were involved with someone from work. ‘Today’s workplace has become the new danger zone of romantic attraction and opportunity,’ Glass writes. Today’s careers offer more opportunity for extramarital affairs. Group interaction in coed workplaces, frequent travel and long hours create more opportunity and temptation than ever. Glass writes, ‘all of these changes and others allow individuals to mix freely where once they were segregated and restricted.’ Studies published in the American Sociological Review and the Journal of Marriage and Family show that before 1985, divorce rates were about equal among working and homemaking women; however, ‘between 1985 and 1992, the annual probability of divorce among employed wives exceeded that for nonemployed wives by 40 percent.’”

This article makes great points about the importance of openness in marriage.

Focus on the Family Magazine: One-Flesh Intimacy:

“Jesus tells us in Mark 10:7-8 that marriage creates an intimacy of one flesh. The phrase one flesh teaches us a great deal about how real intimacy develops and is cultivated in marriage relationships. If we become one flesh with our spouse, then we must open all aspects of our emotional, spiritual and physical lives to that person to the point that we are not unknown in any dimension.”

This is a very good article stresses that spirtual intimacy can only occur between tow people who share Jesus as their Saviour. It makes a great case for believers to be married to one another. I do not see how one who is struggling throughout life to deal with faith issues would not want someone to give that mutual support.

Addicted to Adultescence :

“Kidults aren’t using their time at home to prepare for marriage or to serve others; they’re using it to stall and to serve themselves. Sadly, just like Matt Swann, who we met earlier, marriage is exactly what kidults are trying to avoid. And his sentiments aren’t atypical. Consider 26-year-old Jennie Jiang, for example, who admitted, ‘I want to get married, but not soon. I’m enjoying myself. There’s a lot I want to do by myself still.’ Or Marcus Jones, another twentysomething, who stated that he might be interested in marriage, just not anytime soon. ‘It’s a long way down the road,’ he said. Right now, Marcus explained, ‘I’m too self-involved.’ What are all these ‘important,’ self-involving things that kidults are delaying marriage for?”

Journaling Example 2:

“I was encouraged by this word as He confirmed that I am where He wants me to be for now. I asked Him about anointing upon my life and His direction for anointing for the present time. ‘Michael, you know that I have anointed you for healing and teaching and in administrative gifts. Whatever else I have for you will emerge as you learn. Always keep yourself open to learning more. My revelation gifts are part of My grace. Never ever think or believe you have arrived. Always there is more. Truth – seek truth. Never be content to rest in your current understanding. Press on, but be sure that it is toward Me, always toward Me, rather than the “thing.” My blessing will be yours. Michael, I love you.’ Lord, I love You, too. Thank You for everything. You are beyond my understanding, but I want to press in, nevertheless. I asked the Lord about maintaining the anointing. ‘Michael, you do need to become more aware of My abiding presence, for I am with you wherever you go and whatever the circumstances. Fasting is more than refraining from certain foods, or going without at certain times. That can be, and often is, nothing but religiosity and when it is that, it does not please Me. Fasting is giving up something which you could have according to your resources and opportunities and choosing instead to give those resources, or your time to Me. You go without for My sake. Yet, I do not need what you have except that I choose to use you as an instrument of My generosity, or outreach. So, going without food is beneficial to your body, for its cleansing from time to time and will allow you to come closer to Me when you pray and seek My face. Yet I would rather that you set for yourself a continual lifestyle of self-sacrifice, joyfully walking in My ways in the Kingdom, enjoying the benefits of being a consecrated vessel pouring out My provision, as the widow’s jars did in Elijah’s time. This is what will maintain My anointing and My presence and My ability to use you as a vessel submitted to Me. Love is the key, is it not? That’s My new command and the key to entering in to all Christian activities. Look first to Me and love Me for Who I am. Let Me fill you with My love. You will be motivated, gifted and anointed, consecrated to carry out My wishes.”

Four Keys to Hearing God’s Voice – Two-way Conversations with God!:

“As I fix my gaze upon Jesus (Heb. 12:2), becoming quiet in His presence, and sharing with Him what is on my heart, I find that two-way dialogue begins to flow. Spontaneous thoughts flow from the throne of God to me, and I find that I am actually conversing with the King of Kings. It is very important that you become still and properly focused if you are going to receive the pure word of God. If you are not still, you will simply be receiving your own thoughts. If you are not properly focused on Jesus, you will receive an impure flow, because the intuitive flow comes out of that upon which you have fixed your eyes. Therefore, if you fix your eyes upon Jesus, the intuitive flow comes from Jesus. If you fix your gaze upon some desire of your heart, the intuitive flow comes out of that desire of your heart. To have a pure flow you must first of all become still, and secondly, you must carefully fix your eyes upon Jesus. Again I will say, this is quite easily accomplished by quietly worshiping the King, and then receiving out of the stillness that follows.”