Session Notes

Passing on a Legacy: Spiritual Legacy Evaluation:

“How were spiritual discussions applied in your home? They weren’t To control To manipulate To teach To influence To reinforce 5. What was the perspective in your home regarding moral absolutes? If it feels good, do it! There are no absolutes. Let your heart guide you. Dogmatic legalism Moderate conservatism Clear boundaries”

I don’t entirely agree that clear boundaries are the optimum. Being spirit-led with a grace/faith focus is in my view highest priority. It is, however is a good tool.

Shovel Writings: Faith:

“BOTTOM LINE: If you are one who believes in Christ, then you have been made alive in Him — AND YOU ARE DEPENDENT UPON HIM FOR YOUR VERY LIFE. It makes no difference if you feel it or even understand it. The good news of Jesus Christ declares this reality to you for the purpose of bringing confidence to you so that you can live in the awareness of what is already true about you. Trying to be what you already are will only bring confusion. For we walk by faith, and not by sight.”

This article enlightens that is we have faith a small as a mustard seed nothing is impossible. It is not the how much faith that is the issue. Do not try just live in Christ.

Shovel Writings: Forgiven:

“God doesn’t remember your sins against you and, therefore, does not HOLD them against you! Are you afraid He might discover something that Jesus didn’t take care of?”

Shovel Writings: The New Covenant:

“So, here’s how the new covenant replaced the first. After the people failed miserably in their attempts to be good, God brought about His promised miracle: people who would from the heart operate from love. He did this by putting an end to the lifeless, dead heart (life-source) and created a new one. He brought this about by sending His Son in the likeness of lifeless mankind and He killed it when He died; and then He brought about a new creation after the likeness of His new, resurrected life.”

We need to parent with the attitude of the New covenant, yet realize that children cognitively can only understand the 1st covenant.

Shovel Writings: What if God is REALLY in us?:

This is another inspired meditative article

Husbands and Wives: Marriage Mentoring:

“In addition, the relationship between a mentor couple and newlyweds has a natural cycle of its own, which is not always predictable. Each mentoring relationship takes on its own style and personality. The amount of time couples spend together and the content they discuss can rarely be prescribed. However, we recommend a minimum of three meetings throughout the newlyweds’ first year together: at three months, seven months, and one year after the wedding. These times provide the basic structure upon which additional meetings, meals and phone calls can rest.”

Shovel Writings: What if it is REALLY finished?:

“This is the central-most feature of what is called “Christianity” and yet it is called into question by many who own the name “Christian”. Don’t you find that just a little strange? So, do you believe it? Well, consider these questions and ask yourself if maybe you have been brainwashed into doubting this reality.”

The pros and cons of ‘family-safe’ films :

“‘Sleeping Beauty, because of how evil and cruel the queen is. Also, Ice Age 2 has a lot of sexual innuendo. I don’t like how there is an absence of definition as to who the movie is for. We live in an R-rated world — and as a church, we should look different, have a higher standard.’ She summarized her support of FamilySafe: ‘I’m a parent. We’ve got one shot to protect kids from things that could destroy their lives.’ Miller conceded: ‘I realize that James 1:27 says ‘keep oneself from being polluted by the world.’ However, he stressed: ‘To me, that doesn’t mean insulating yourself from the world.’ Jesus, he said, ‘certainly didn’t insulate himself from the world. He spent much of his time eating, drinking, and fellowshipping in dens of iniquity. And I’m sure he wasn’t wearing earplugs or a blindfold. Eradication or elimination of sin is not the goal of the Christian life. It’s about embracing holiness, becoming godly. That may sound like the same thing, but I can assure you it is not. One is human-centred, the other God-centred.’ CC.com invites feedback on this subject. What do you think of FamilySafe’s practice of editing movies to avoid offense, and then distributing them in that form? Email us at: feedback@canadianchristianity.com.”

This is a prime example of the debate which only seems to be able proving ourselves are right. This is pride.

Help Your Child Behave: Help Your Child Behave:

“Catch her doing what you want. Keep a watchful eye on your child. When you find her doing something you want her to do, give plenty of praise. Affirmation will encourage her to keep up the positive behavior. Ignore minor infractions. Often simply ignoring negative behavior can make it go away. However, never ignore behavior that is dangerous to the child or to others. Say yes as much as possible. Parents say no several times a day but fail to say yes when they have the opportunity. Choose your battles wisely, allowing your child more freedom while maintaining limits. Phrase commands in a positive way. Children respond better to commands that are specific. State what you want rather than what you don’t want. Instead of saying, Stop running, say, You need to walk. Be consistent. You want your child to know what to expect from you. Inconsistency confuses children and leads to further misbehavior.”

This series offer good suggestions also about spending 20 minutes with each child individually once a week to encourage good behavior.

Boundless Answers: Boyfriend is not “outwardly Christian” :

“ou would both benefit from the input of an older believing married couple. One of the great things about mentors is that they can ask questions of you individually and as a couple that you wouldn’t be comfortable asking yourselves. And they can pray with you. And for you. Mentoring can provide clarity about your spiritual compatibility. Considering marriage is a serious thing. It’s probably the most important decision you’ll make in your lifetime after deciding to follow Christ. This is the time to get wisdom and input from counselors you trust. That includes family and friends. If you’re hearing from them that this isn’t a good match, it’s important to at least listen to their concerns and consider the possibility that they’re seeing something you’re not. Often our friends and parents have insights that elude us in the fog of emotion. Human nature being what it is, it’s safe to say that what bothers you now about your beau will not go away once you’re married. Chances are, it will grow to be more of a concern, not less. So whatever it is that you feel still needs resolving, it’s always better to address those concerns before taking a permanent vow of lifelong marriage. The good news is that if this guy is as great a man as you say he is, and if he is a true believer in Christ, you should certainly be able to talk about your concerns. And with the help of some mentors (your parents or another Christian couple you both trust) get to the place where you can marry him, confident that you’re equally yoked. I do pray God will use this relationship to draw both of you closer to Him.”

This is a great article on the importance of accepting Christ in your mind as well as your heart.

Citizen Magazine - no More Dirty Dancing:

“When I grew up I wanted to feel in control, like I was somebody. I had voids I couldn’t fill any other way,’ Marie says. She found ready money in sexually oriented businesses (SOBs). The work also gave her independence and security. She progressed easily from topless dancing to nude dancing. ‘I had a hard heart,’ she says. ‘It didn’t make any difference to me.’”

This is a great article on the root causes of the sexual oriented businesses.

Focus on the Family Magazine: May I Have This Dance?:

“he fathers and daughters paired off as they entered the elegant ballroom of the five-star Broadmoor Hotel in Colorado Springs. The dads wore suits or tuxes, the young ladies beautiful ball gowns. This was the fourth annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball, an event sponsored by Generations of Light Ministries last March. The ball featured an inspirational ballet by the Ballet Society of Colorado Springs, dinner accompanied by chamber music and ballroom dancing until midnight. (Okay, some non-ballroom dancing occurred, too. Try dancing a minuet to Blue Suede Shoesor a Glenn Miller big band tune.) The 100 father-daughter guests some dads brought more than one daughter, and some of the daughters were as young as 4 came from around Colorado, and a few from as far away as Pennsylvania. The highlight of the evening was when the dads signed the Covenant of Purity and Protection, witnessed by their daughters. right.) “This is not a debutante ball, but an elegant spiritual celebration that honors what God has created in fathers and daughters,”

Dancing is a great way to build confidence/femininity in girls.

Dancing With the Stars:

“Skimpy outfits and occasional mild language notwithstanding, Dancing maintains a degree of class and style reminiscent of past generations. It also spotlights dedication and the ability to overcome obstacles.”

Martial Arts: A Family Affair: Aren’t Martial Arts Violent?:

“Most martial arts instructors who teach kids consider their primary responsibility to be character development, not skill development. Abusive behavior is simply not tolerated in Universal Kempo, and we take accountability in the matter seriously: We periodically request signed statements from their teachers and parents about their behavior at home and school. Parents these days are rightly concerned about exposing their children to violence, especially on TV or in the movies. Yet most children, boys especially, are two-legged tidal waves of energy and aggression. Martial arts can offer a healthy, controlled way for children not only to release some of that energy, but also to learn to channel it into self-discipline and character development.”

Introducing The First Stage of Therapy with Women with Same-Sex Attraction: Securing the Foundation:

“Attunement is the nonverbal communication such as eye contact, facial expression, voice modulation, gestures, and timing and touch, [1] common to the relationship between a young child and mother, ‘in which both are sharing affect and focused attention on each other in a way such that the child’s enjoyable experiences are amplified and his/her stressful experiences are reduced and contained’ [2] (emphasis mine).”

This is a great article on the importance of mirroring empathy and acknowledging the difficulty in sharing/breaches of disconnect. In order to be with/love another we need to take a deptht breath and rest with them in the moment.

Cravings, Lust, and Boasting :

“These believers are, of course, living at various stages of Christian maturity. In chapter two, John affirms the younger men for growing strong as the Word of God changes their lives. He rejoices that the fathers - the more mature members of the church - have increasingly been delivered from the power of sin and have developed an intimate communion with God. All the truly converted are among the dear children whom John addresses, and he graciously attests to the evidences of saving and sanctifying grace in their lives. What We Must Not Love John’s affirmation of the church provides the necessary basis for this firm, unequivocal exhortation: Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world - the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does - comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever. (1 John 2:15-17) Here, honest questions may arise in the minds of some. In Genesis, didn’t God declare all his creation ‘good’? Then how is it that we, God’s dear children, may not love it? And if ‘God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,’ (John 3:16) why are we forbidden that same love? The issue here is, of course, simply a matter of translation. When Christians in the first century read John’s letter, there was no confusion about the meaning of this passage. There need be none for us, either. The original readers of John’s letter recognized that the John 3:16 ‘world’ which God loves is a reference to people - the entire human race. And they knew that elsewhere in Scripture, that which we now find translated as ‘world’ often speaks of the sinful ways of fallen humanity - the world of arrogant self-sufficiency and hostility toward God. This is the ‘world’ we are warned of in 1 John 2:15. Not the human race, creation, or God-ordained structures such as family, career, and government. It is, instead, the world of sin, rebellion, and self-reliance from which we must diligently withhold our so easily diverted affections.”

This makes some good points about using creation to deepen your love for God.

Boundless: What If We Love Each Other?:

“When you ask God in prayer whether it’s okay to have sex outside marriage, you’re only pretending, because you know He has already answered that question in His Scriptures. You see, God doesn’t contradict Himself; He doesn’t say one thing in the Bible and another thing when you pray. If He has already told you what to do, then asking Him ‘What should I do?’ isn’t a way to find His will, but to avoid it. He says to you, ‘Why do you keep asking me questions I’ve already answered?’ So what do you do now? Before anything else, you and your girl friend need to repent. That means admitting to yourselves, and to God, that you’ve disobeyed Him; it means admitting to yourselves, and to God, that you’ve been playing tricks on your conscience; it means being sorry; it means telling Him that you’re sorry; and it means reversing course. If your girl friend doesn’t want to repent, that doesn’t get you off the hook, because you will just have to repent by yourself. You’ll have to do that even if she becomes angry, even if she threatens to break off the relationship, and even if she does break off the relationship. After repenting, ask God to forgive you through Jesus Christ. Then ask Him for strength to resist future sexual temptations because by giving in once, you’ve made it harder to resist the next time. Finally, agree now to avoid the tempting situations situations like being alone together. I’ll bet you didn’t know that the more time a couple spends alone together, the more likely they are to wind up in bed!”

This is an excellent article on self-perpetuating confusion in relationship boundaries, particularly. If you train yourself not to repent you are hardening your heart in being able to hear from God. let alone do it.

TrueU.org | Career Services: Do Not Go Gentle Into Your Career:

” I found very helpful in better understanding myself. For now, consider the following questions: What motivates you to do your best work? What doesn’t motivate you? That is, what kind of tasks, environments and personalities hinder your ability to be your best (or bore you to tears)? For example, if you thrive on teamwork and personal interaction, you’d likely pass on more solitary careers like architecture or computer programming, and avoid environments in which people are primarily ‘looking out for number one.’ What skills and abilities do you naturally excel at? It’s important to distinguish them from skills and abilities at which you are merely adequate or that you wish you excelled at. For example, I seriously considered pursuing a career in music, having grown up playing the drums and writing lyrics. As I explored different classes in my freshman and sophomore years, however, I realized that I had non-musical interests that were equally compelling. Though I had talent, I couldn’t see myself dedicating the amount of time necessary to truly excel as a musician. My interests in business and communications were pulling me in another direction.”

The Treatment of Ego-Dystonic Homosexuality: The Development of a Masculine Self-Image:

” I attempted to demystify the later homosexual fantasies through clarifications such as the following: ‘Deep down your fantasies serve as a security blanket in the same way they did when you were five. At that age your heart ached for your father’s strong arms to hold you, but sensing his rejection, you turned away and inward in an attempt to create your own good father image. This helped you to endure his emotional detachment but laid the groundwork for your dependence upon fantasies for soothing your pain. With the onset of adolescence, you feelings of masculine inadequacy were intermixed with sexual urges, and once again you turned to your fantasies for soothing your pain. But this time, you had no choice other than to construct them in a blatantly sexual style due to the phase of life you were in. Heterosexual fantasies would not provide any type of relief and refueling, since you were still stuck in the arms of the good father, not ready to let go and too scared that you would not make it as a man.’”

Boundless Answers: Dating and Sex :

“Typically, a relationship follows the natural progression of ever-growing intimacy until it reaches the point of, not sex, but commitment lifelong commitment. When people don’t want to commit for a lifetime, but also don’t want the relationship to end, they enter that hazy, thorny middle ground of sexual intimacy without lifelong commitment, hoping to prolong what they have not by marriage and lifelong commitment, which is God’s design but by jumping to sex and maybe living together. It’s counterfeit ‘marriage’ and a train wreck waiting to happen. Feeding this problem is what I call passive dating — growing more intimate with someone without really any ultimate purpose other than having fun, with no intentionality in the relationship. I can’t tell you how dangerous it is to continue growing intimate in a relationship that has no ultimate purpose beyond ‘fun’ or ‘personal pleasure.’ Those are great things, but they are by-products of a great relationship, not at all strong enough to be its ultimate purpose.”

This is another great article that discusses the danger of chronic delay of lifelong commitment. Aloneness motivates a a man to pursue a lifelong companion. Pursue a spouse not a boyfriend. Girls do not let men have a quasi-commitment from you.

Ask Theophilus: What’s Wrong with these Pictures? :

” If the man doesn’t want eros, then he doesn’t really want marriage; he only wants the legal form of marriage. You are right to be suspicious of his motives. Mind you, the relationship has to really end – you say you’ve ended it, but obviously you haven’t. End the whole thing, small talk and all. Break off. Don’t see him at all. You’re like someone with an infected tooth. You’re afraid to pull it out because it will hurt. The problem is that if you don’t pull it out, it will hurt much worse, for much longer, and in many more ways. I know you feel compassion for the young man, and that’s not wrong. True compassion, though, should lead you to desire his true good, and this relationship is no more good for him than it is for you. As you remarked yourself, he’s not trying to get well. In fact, he is using you. The only question is in how many different ways he is doing it. You see, he’s not pursuing you because he is seeking sexual wholeness; he’s pursuing you as a substitute for sexual wholeness, as a way to keep from facing the fact that his emotions are still not in order. I can’t help but wonder what else he is up to. In these books you are reading on homosexuality, look up the concept of an ‘accommodation marriage’ — a marriage of convenience which is kept up merely as a front.”

These are two amazing articles on confusing pity with romantic love, deception, manipulating another’s self doubts, using the opposite sex as good enough for now boyfriend/girlfriends, exploitation, ambivalence about dependency, misunderstandings about godly character, and shame as a result.

Overcoming Ongoing Feelings of Guilt:

“Here are scriptural prayers to lift before God as you truly repent of sin and accept His forgiveness. Lord, I acknowledged my sin to You and didn’t cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord and You forgave the guilt of my sin (see Psalm 32:5). Lord, according to Your Word, he who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy (see Proverbs 28:13). Father God, You made my Savior’s life a guilt offering for me (see Isaiah 53:10). His death was enough to handle my guilt. Blessed am I, God, because my transgressions are forgiven. My sins are covered. Blessed am I because You, Lord, will never count my sins against me (see Romans 4:7-8). Excerpt from Praying God’s Word by Beth Moore.”

I Can’t Believe He’s Not Butter:

“I wanted this song to be an encouragement to young girls to keep waiting for their butter. What I mean by butter is a guy who is truly devoted to the Lord, to honoring God in their relationship and someone who is her best friend. In a world of margarine, wait for the real thing, your butter. There are guys out there who are genuine servants of God. What qualities should girls look for in a guy? My dad always said, Wait for the man that most represents Christ to you on this planet.That is a super- tall order, but there are guys out there who are like that – who treat their moms well, who open doors for young women, who help elderly women with their bags and who have a good relationship with their dad and/or who are being mentored, and may even mentor other people.”

This article offers some good suggestions on integrity and not just assuring yourself he is the right guy.

TrueU.org | Women’s Hall: Just Wanting to Be Known:

“You’re turning the tattered fabric of my life into a perfect tapestry. I just want to be me and you love me just as I am. If we are ever going to allow others to see us as we are, we first have to see ourselves as God does. Lamentations 3:22 states, ‘Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed for his compassions never fail’ (NIV). Satan’s masquerade doesn’t stop simply because we choose to walk out of it. Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed by the masquerade of this world; God’s compassions never fail, even though He sees straight into our very core. Living under God’s love, instead of the world’s superficiality, is what gives me the courage to be myself and allow others to see who I am: a human being with strengths, weaknesses, desires, and fears, but most importantly, a person loved and cherished by my Creator. C.S. Lewis once said: The more we get what we now call ‘ourselves’ out of the way and let Him take us over, the more truly ourselves we become. He invented all the different men that you and I were intended to be. .It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.1″

This is a comforting article to pray over the verse and rest.

Husbands and Wives: But I Don’t Feel Like It:

“Decide to be the best. A woman asked me if she had to submit to a husband who wasn’t living up to his part of the spiritual leadership bargain. She said, ‘It doesn’t seem fair.’ She’s right. It isn’t fair. Nonetheless, both spouses can’t just wait it out to see who will step up to the plate and be the bigger, better person. Someone has to choose to serve the other in love first. You can hold on to being right, but you will probably be left holding just your opinion - and not your marriage. I always recommend to women that they obey God, submit to Him and seek to please Him - then trust Him with the results in their relationship. In over 25 years, I can’t remember one woman who was ever sorry she obeyed God. Even if she couldn’t save her marriage, she saved her integrity - and her spouse’s behavior couldn’t take that away. Life is full of choices. Obedience is a path to God’s protection for you and your future. Wisdom is a gateway to happiness (Proverbs 3:13-20). We need to remember these things and make wise decisions for life - even when we don’t feel like it.”

Insomnia and Other Sleep Disorders

Valerian has been used as a medicinal herb since at least the time of ancient Greece and Rome. Its therapeutic uses were described by Hippocrates, and in the 2nd century, Galen prescribed valerian for insomnia [5,7]. In the 16th century, it was used to treat nervousness, trembling, headaches, and heart palpitations [8]. In the mid-19th century, valerian was considered a stimulant that caused some of the same complaints it is thought to treat and was generally held in low esteem as a medicinal herb [2]. During World War II, it was used in England to relieve the stress of air raids [9].

As per request. This works!!!

Do Your Children Understand Easter?:

“Children need to know that dying was Jesus Christ’s reason for living on earth. They also need to know about Jesus resurrection three days later. As a parent, you can have the wonderful privilege of talking with your child about these important truths. The Easter season (which only begins with Easter Sunday) is great time to do this. The following mini-lessons are designed for you to download, print out, review with a Bible in hand and then read with your child. These lessons will help you give your child a greater appreciation and understanding of the purpose of Jesus Christ’s life, death and resurrection.”

Some of these are fresh ideas to impart. I believe it is important to stress that Jesus was God so He could judge we do not have that right. It makes a point Jesus was killed for not keeping the Sabbath as well. We may be crucified for walking in the Spirit as well.

Above It All:

“Wisdom means having clear understanding and insight. It means knowing how to apply the truth in every situation. It’s discerning what is right and wrong. It’s having good judgment. It’s being able to sense when you are getting too close to the edge. It’s making the right choice or decision. And often only God knows what that is. But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come. (John 16:13).”

The case for advocating and teaching self-defense against rape

A thorough review of the available literature has led us to some surprising conclusions about the effectiveness of traditional anti-rape advice. Women are often advised to use non-aggressive strategies against sexual assault (Storaska, 1975; Channing L. Bete Co., What every woman should know about rape, 1989; Channing L. Bete Co., What women and men should know about date rape, 1989). Research suggests that this is poor advice. According to one study (Zoucha-Jensen and Coyne, 1993), women who used non-forceful verbal strategies, such as crying or pleading with the assailant, were raped about 96% of the time. In the same study, women who did nothing to protect themselves were raped about 93% of the time.

Forceful verbal resistance, including yelling and loud screaming, was more effective than non-forceful verbal resistance. These strategies were associated with completion of rape from 44% - 50% of the time (Quinsey and Upfold, 1985). This study is particularly interesting because the data were collected from rapists in maximum security psychiatric hospitals, showing that forceful verbal strategies can be effective even against the violently insane.

Running worked even better than verbal resistance. Although researchers who relied on rape crisis center records and police records (Zoucha-Jensen and Coyne, 1993) report a 55% rape completion rate against those who attempted to flee, broader studies such as Bart and O’Brien (1985) indicate that only 15% of women who attempted to flee were raped. Running was also associated with a lower rate of injury (Kleck and Sayles, 1990; Siegel et al., 1989; Ullman and Knight, 1991).

Forceful physical resistance was an extremely successful strategy. The completed rape rate dropped to between 45% and 14% when the rapist’s attempt was met with violent physical force (Kleck and Sayles, 1990; Siegel et al., 1989; Ullman and Knight, 1992; Zoucha-Jensen and Coyne, 1993). Striking was more successful than pushing or wrestling (Quinsey and Upfold, 1985). Physical resistance also appears to be more effective when assault occurs outdoors (Quinsey and Upfold, 1985).

It’s about time someone finally said it…

TrueU.org | Lecture Hall: How Spiritual Disciplines Work: Repetition and Witnessing:

“If you want to make it your aim to grow in the courage to stand up for your faith in intimidating situations including sharing the gospel with unbelievers you need to learn why you believe what you believe (see 1 Peter 3:15). This is why most of my previous articles have focused on apologetical topics. But this is not enough. You need to practice taking a stand and sharing your faith in increasingly more daunting situations. Just as one moves from simple golf swings to difficult golf swings, so one should develop courage in the same way. Start with situations that are mildly intimidating, for example, by simply identifying yourself as a Christian to someone who is not. And once you learn to be comfortable with that, move on to practicing slightly more difficult tasks. Be patient with yourself don’t force yourself to do something that is so far outside your safety zone where you’ll get discouraged and stop making progress. On the other hand, continue to stretch yourself. As you do, remember that you are approaching this area of life as a spiritual discipline.”

This article is good. However one needs to be careful that following God’s teachings does not become legalism. It is critical that we depend on God to change us not ourselves.

KCCI.com - News - Publisher Won’t Print Bibles With Porn Reference

{SARCASM}Once again, the church is out there spreading the Good News that Jesus wants you to get your act together. Isn’t it nice to know the love of God comes with strings attached???

In other news, Rahab and Mary Magdalene just seen fleeing heaven…{/SARCASM}

That being said though, the organization (xxxchurch.org) that is trying to print those Bibles is insane enough to be responsible for this: (No, I’m not kidding…)

Every time you masturbate…God Kills a kitten!

Who needs soap operas when we have Christianity???

Boundless: The Beloved:

“A little girl draws her father’s attention only when he wants to use her for his sexual perversions. I am sexually dangerous, she concludes. I am a dirty little girl. She lives with the tremendous rift in her soul caused by the ambivalence of abuse. On the one hand, the attention felt good. She was made for intimacy. Yet the only intimacy she’s ever known was violating. Years later, she becomes the efficient, competent head of women’s ministry at church. She’s known as a tireless worker and a real servant - but there isn’t a man who is drawn to her in any intimate way. She carefully avoids all compliments and keeps any potential relationships at a purely ‘ministry’ level. She can’t take the risk of being attractive sexually. Long ago she learned that intimacy leads to violation, that the sensual parts of her are dirty and so she hides them well beneath a false self of Christian service.”

Pensacola College rewrites the definition of legalism — yet again…

Sabrina Poirier, a student at Pensacola who withdrew in 1997, was disciplined for what is known on the campus as “optical intercourse” — staring too intently into the eyes of a member of the opposite sex. This is also referred to as “making eye babies.” While the rule does not appear in written form, most students interviewed for this article were familiar with the concept.

I think I’ve finally found it — Christian fundamentalism at its finest. A must read for anyone who still can’t figure out why the credibility of the Church is at an all time low and North America is rapidly becoming a pagan continent…

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