Boundless: The Beloved:

“A little girl draws her father’s attention only when he wants to use her for his sexual perversions. I am sexually dangerous, she concludes. I am a dirty little girl. She lives with the tremendous rift in her soul caused by the ambivalence of abuse. On the one hand, the attention felt good. She was made for intimacy. Yet the only intimacy she’s ever known was violating. Years later, she becomes the efficient, competent head of women’s ministry at church. She’s known as a tireless worker and a real servant – but there isn’t a man who is drawn to her in any intimate way. She carefully avoids all compliments and keeps any potential relationships at a purely ‘ministry’ level. She can’t take the risk of being attractive sexually. Long ago she learned that intimacy leads to violation, that the sensual parts of her are dirty and so she hides them well beneath a false self of Christian service.”