Focus on the Family Magazine: Ending the Divorce Cycle:

“the strong relationship of the Barrams, eventually developed a positive expectation in me. I went from hoping that I could be more successful than my parents at marriage to firmly believing that this would be the case. Despite living with the negative model of parental divorce, I could and would have a solid marriage. Third, my models gave me examples of healthy ways and habits to build a marriage. Relationships often flounder because the people in them simply stop doing the positive actions that keep the relationship strong things like helping each other; saying I love you; putting an encouraging arm around a discouraged loved one’s shoulder; and deferring often to the other’s desires.”

This is a good article on suggestions to have a thriving marriages. It is important to discuss and seriously consider each other’s point of view and give up each other’s will to God’s, especially through prayer or mutual submission. Both partners need to feel they are not being controlled by another’s attitude.