Get Married, Young Man :

“t’s significant that an elder should be one who manages his own family well (1 Tim 3:4). Paul apparently saw this as a litmus test of how a man will lead in God’s church. By trying to love my wife as Christ loves me (sacrificially, intentionally, perseveringly), I am blessed by reaping the good fruit that comes from a joyful partner and friend. Likewise, my failures are amplified because both she and I suffer. “

This is a good article on the questions of determining singleness or marriage. I find it contradicts in places, especially that it is by God’s grace that we reflect our growth through the Lord’s redemptive efforts. It is helpful to know some of God’s desires come slowly and seem unnatural. However Jesus will make it unmistakably clear.