BA: Where to Meet People :

“You might think I’d recommend the Internet. Given the high number of Christian dating sites, it’s tempting to think finding love online is a sure thing. But the explosion of technological matchmaking still falls short of real people. According to research by The Marriage Project, ‘The most likely way to find a future marriage partner is through an introduction by family, friends, or acquaintances.’ They found that, ‘despite the romantic notion that people meet and fall in love through chance or fate, the evidence suggests that social networks are important in bringing together individuals of similar interests and backgrounds, especially when it comes to selecting a marriage partner. According to a large-scale national survey of sexuality, almost 60 percent of married people were introduced by family, friends, co-workers or other acquaintances.’ That said, the most obvious place to start is church. But you say the men in your church aren’t ‘worthwhile’ or ‘husband material.’ While it’s possible there aren’t any strong candidates for marriage among those in your congregation, your description of the men makes me wonder about your expectations. What characteristics do you consider worthwhile? What makes for good husband material? It’s important to weigh your answers against the standards of Scripture. What does God consider ‘husband material?’ Traits like integrity, honesty and maturity come to mind; also willingness to leave father and mother in order to form a new family; ability to work hard and provide for a wife and children; openness to babies and willingness to sacrifice for wife and children %u2014 the very thing Christ modeled in His sacrifice for our sin. As to your church, is it an environment that encourages and celebrates marriage? If so, even a lack of single men may not be reason enough to leave it. What about the older members? They may have sons, nephews, grandsons, etc. they could introduce you to.”

This is a good article on the importance of staying on track so you don’t waste time and spare you heartache. I disagree with the marriagablity part. It is God who creates all things including marriage.