Archive for December, 2006

December 30, 2006: 3:26 am: CalNews

www.lewrockwell.com

At the beginning of the scientific era, men had the hope that the ability to discover truth would free mankind from superstition, dogma, and the service of power. The belief in truth was powerful. Truth would deliver justice and bring an end to status-based privileges and the falsehoods propagated by privilege. The faith in truth was short-lived. Today propaganda is everywhere in the ascendancy.

All I can add is that it’s about time someone stood up and said it.

December 29, 2006: 9:46 am: RosAbuse, Children, Grace, Parenting

Your Child’s Emotions:

“Encourage your child to use words to express her feelings. These should be words used to describe what your child feels rather than words used to hurt others.”

This is an excellent point about sharing one’s experience of the feelings. However it also stresses one is not allowed to hurt others.

December 26, 2006: 10:56 am: RosChurch, Dating, Grace, Marriage

When Your Parents Divorce:

“ in any case forgiveness can be a challenge, I pray and ask God for strength. I ask Him to change my heart to be graceful toward others, just as He is graceful toward me. Daily as I choose to forgive and not become bitter, negative feelings flow away and peace floods my heart.”

This is an excellent article to grieve your way through parental/separation and divorce to God. It outlines that confusion as one feels love for both parents yet also feels obligated to take sides/peacemake. The only exception I have to it is the tendency to mix the old covenant of sin with the new covenant of grace. The old has been done away with in Christ. The only law that remains is love and the true gospel is peace/joy. This truly glorifies God.

December 23, 2006: 8:38 am: RosFamily Issues, Grace, Grief, Marriage

When Your Kids Divorce:

“For example, what about your child moving back home? Some counselors caution parents about the implications that come with putting out either a ”Vacancy“ or ”No Vacancy“ sign. Perhaps your child should explore other options, such as moving into a smaller apartment or taking on tenants, instead of returning home. How much financial or material support can/should you offer? Consider conditions on your help, such as whether your giving should be a gift or a loan, and for how long. Other legal and financial questions must also be considered, such as your will and raising grandchildren, directly or indirectly, if the need arises.”

This article focuses on adult children of divorce. It stresses blaming, especially of childcare decisions makes reconciliation difficult.

December 20, 2006: 12:19 pm: RosDating, Friendship, Marriage, Sexuality

One preacher’s message: Have hotter sex – America Unzipped – MSNBC.com :

“No inhibitionsThis literalist view cuts both ways. Beam has been attacked by some conservative Christians for his liberal take on certain subjects. Much of what he preaches contradicts the teaching of other sects, such as Roman Catholicism. But he argues that if the Bible does not forbid it, you can do it. So bring on masturbation. Try any position in the Kama Sutra (but refer to drawings, please, not pictures of real people). Wife away on business? Have phone sex. Birth control is good. Even anal sex is OK if (and Beam believes this is a big if) it does no harm to the body.”

This is a refreshing article on sex. It even has suggestion on how to make male oral play more pallitable for the women. I disagree with the law parts.

December 11, 2006: 11:46 am: RosDating, Friendship, Marriage, Premarriage

Money and Your Marriage:

“Money. It’s the one thing there never seems to be enough of and the one thing couples fight about most. She likes to shop and he likes to save. She wants to save for a rainy day and he wants to splurge on the trip of a lifetime. Each has their own definition of needs versus wants. ”

This is a good synopsis of the marital trouble regarding money. The definitions need to be surrendered to God for His priorities to be lived out in His most timely way. Both aspects seem to be the Lord’s will.

: 9:23 am: RosDating, Friendship, Grace, Premarriage, Theology

Hard Truths About Trust :

“The fact that we are made uncomfortable by the
Bible’s repeated calls to trust God is probably an
indication that we have too often been living like
practical atheists — uncritically trusting
ourselves, not acknowledging God or remembering His
past faithfulness, and failing to meditate on His
trustworthiness.

The Bible repeatedly tells us that to ultimately trust in
anything or anyone but God is a disastrous
mistake:

”He who trusts in himself is a fool“ (Prov. 28:26). The New King
James renders this verse in a way that speaks to many
in our day who are given to thinking their individual
subjective desires are always correct, ”He who trusts in
his heart is a fool.“”

: 9:22 am: RosDating, Friendship, Theology

Hard Truths About Trust :

“The fact that we are made uncomfortable by the
Bible’s repeated calls to trust God is probably an
indication that we have too often been living like
practical atheists — uncritically trusting
ourselves, not acknowledging God or remembering His
past faithfulness, and failing to meditate on His
trustworthiness.

The Bible repeatedly tells us that to ultimately trust in
anything or anyone but God is a disastrous
mistake:

”He who trusts in himself is a fool“ (Prov. 28:26). The New King
James renders this verse in a way that speaks to many
in our day who are given to thinking their individual
subjective desires are always correct, ”He who trusts in
his heart is a fool.“”

This is a fantastic article on underlining that the peace and joy are found only when our greatest trust is placed in Jesus. It also has some good guidance on to propose or not to become engaged. (the person has godliness, strength, and you enjoy each other’s compamny. It has some description of family of origin issues to grieve. We are not doomed to our histories, but may have to have God reshape our thinking because of them. (ROM 12:1-2) The only exception I take to this article is it points on sin. It is not the most helpful to live life looking at failures rather than trusting in the grace of God to come. However it is tragic when youth is wasted on prodigal living. It does seem ironic that in view of all that Christ has done, taking sin away, that we cannot fully trust Him. I pray He would live out the faith we are to have in Him.

December 9, 2006: 3:18 am: CalChurch, Rants, Theology

Doing what Jesus said -- oh wait...

Sometimes, when no one will listen to truth in any other way, all that remains is mockery…

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December 8, 2006: 11:51 pm: CalChurch, Theology

Times Online

Priests are being torn by the pressure of having to be nice all the time to everyone, even when confronted with extremes of nastiness, she says.

It is worse in the suburbs, where Christians can choose between a variety of “gathered” churches, all offering different styles, from tambourines to High Mass with incense. Here, troublemakers indulge in “church hopping”, moving on to the next church once they have had enough of the one they are in.

Dr Savage says that these people suffer from neurotic personality disorders bordering on the psychotic.

The clinical definition for these individuals is, “Corporate antagonism.” It is a sub-clinically significant combination of paranoia and delusionality.

Antagonists are individuals who, on the basis of nonsubstantive evidence, go out of their way to make insatiable demands, usually attacking the person or performance of others. These attacks are selfish in nature, tearing down rather then building up, and are frequently directed against those in a leadership capacity.

The primary effects of antagonism lie in their ability to obliterate community, to create doubt, to instill fear and to create a climate of dishonor such that even natural allies can begin to doubt, without cause or sensibility, the character and values of their leader.

In short, this is real, it’s hardly limited to England and it can be dealt with via a concentrated strategy of knowledge for the clergy, education for the church leadership (Board level) and a pattern of strategic hardening of the entire church culture that makes such repellent to these individuals.

Henze & Associates offers this educational and strategic hardening service to companies, churches and community organizations — really any body of people who have had enough.

December 5, 2006: 9:35 am: RosChildren, Parenting

Giving Your Child the Excellence Edge:

“Manage Time. How children learn to spend their time now influences how they spend their time in school and later as adults. Assess Yourself. What children believe is true about themselves is largely determined by what others think of them.”

: 9:25 am: RosChildren, Parenting

Answer:

“t is likely that your late-maturing youngster has not yet completed a vital neurological process involving an organic substance called myelin. At birth, the nervous system of the body is not insulated. ”

This is a good argument for homeschooling until age 7. Physically they are not ready.

: 9:08 am: RosChildren, Parenting

Answer:

“If a youngster is particularly sharp and if he or she can learn to read without feeling undue adult pressure, it would be advantageous to teach this skill. But that’s a much bigger ”if“ than most people realize. There are some parents who find it difficult to work with their children without showing frustration over immaturity and disinterest.Furthermore, new skills should be taught at the age when they are most needed. Why invest unnecessary effort trying to teach a child to read when he has not yet learned to cross the street, tie his shoes, count to 10, or answer the telephone?”

December 3, 2006: 10:11 am: RosChildren, Parenting

Cautions for Parents:

“ome children are very slow to catch on to reading. Some children have a specific learning disability that makes reading harder. Some children have an attention deficit disorder and have trouble concentrating. Some are just immature and have trouble settling down to learn anything. If your child has a specific problem, it%u2019s important to get help for him. But it’s also important to communicate to him that he can learn to read; it just might take him a little longer. I’ve had students say things like, ‘I’ll never read well; I’m dyslexic.’ Except in a tiny percentage of cases, that doesn’t need to be true.’Jim Trelease, author of The Read-Aloud Handbook, writes:’Expect negative consequences if teaching your child to read becomes an obsession. Experts in psychology and education emphasize the importance of unforced learning during the formative childhood years. ‘Avoid compulsion and let early education be a matter of amusement. Young children learn by games; compulsory education cannot remain in the soul’ was the advice offered by Plato to parents.”Another big mistake is stopping reading to children too soon. The older the child, the less he is read to in the home and classroom. Parents and teachers might say, in the top fourth-grade reading group why should I read to him? The reason is that a chil’s listening level is often higher than his reading level. Children can hear and understand stories that are more complicated and more interesting than anything they could read on their own.’”

December 1, 2006: 10:41 am: RosDating, Friendship, Premarriage

Biblical Dating: An Introduction :

“Modern dating tends to be egalitarian (no differences between men and women in spiritual or emotional ‘wiring’ or God-given roles). Biblical dating tends to be complimentarian (God has created men and women differently and has ordained each of these spiritual equals to play different and valuable roles in the church and in the family). Modern dating tends to assume that you will spend a great deal of time together (most of it alone). Biblical dating tends to encourage time spent in group activities or with other people the couple knows well. Modern dating tends to assume that you need to get to know a person more deeply than anyone else in the world to figure out whether you should be with him or her. The biblical approach suggests that real commitment to the other person should precede such a high level of intimacy.”

The first part of the article aside, the comparisons between modern and Biblical dating are helpful. They offer so principles that need to be surrendered to have the closest to God’s best.

: 3:05 am: CalChurch, News, Rants

Charleston Daily Mail

Why doesn’t the manger scene have a baby Jesus?

“We try to explain that by law we can’t do that. We have been advised by (city) council not to get into that,” said David Cunningham, superintendent of St. Albans City Park.

Instead, there is a scene that looks remarkably like depictions of the night Jesus Christ was born. There’s a star, a couple of sheep, some camels and a structure that could be taken for the barn where Mary and Joseph had their baby.

“You could call it a manger,” he said. “We call it a place for the animals. It looks like two things coming up on the sides with a roof-like structure. What it looks like depends on your imagination.

A rather brilliant observation posted via Fark.com seems to sum it up better then I ever could:

2006-11-30 04:45:09 PM IdBeCrazyIf

Number40: And to remove Christ from the mix? You gotta be kidding me!

Well… to be fair. It’s not like Christians were using Christ for anything important anyway.

Lord knows they certainly don’t actually listen to what he says.

Isn’t it interesting that a secular society can more clearly see the teachings of Jesus then the church can? Jesus came, he basically took on a religious system that controlled people’s lives (While robbing them blind) and called people to love each other while, moment by moment, listening to and following the voice of God. His disciples demanded to be put at the helm of a new system — and Jesus refused to even name the president or define it’s structure.

He was barely gone before we had a new religious system — run by a dude we call the pope, an organization we call the synod or whatever — and a new set of rules to back an organization that, once again, is usually about money. Worst of all, it’s not about love, grace or freedom.

“It’s not like Christians were using Christ for anything important anyway. Lord knows they certainly don’t actually listen to what he says.”

Yep — Guilty as charged.

BTW: The town officials are using the law to hide their real addenda. The Supreme Court long ago ruled that creches, complete with baby Jesus, do not violate the constitution, so long as they are part of an otherwise secular holiday display. The ruling basically said that Christmas is a secular shopping holiday and that cities have an interest in promoting secular shopping holidays via holiday displays.