Q: What are the Sex and Love Addict's Twelve Steps? A: (1). We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable. (2). Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (3). Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God. (4). Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. (5). Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (6). Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. (7). Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. (8). Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. (9). Made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. (10). Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. (11). Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out. (12). Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sex and love addicts, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives. (For informational purposes only. Twelve step programs have a documented 95% failure rate.) * REPRINTED FOR ADAPTATION BY PERMISSION OF A.A. WORLD SERVICES, INC. Henze and Associates home page (Loads in a new window).